New Article Up On TheDreamIncentive.BlogSpot.com “You Don’t Have To Prove Anything To Anybody But Yourself”
Ever since I was a young kid, I knew that I was very unique from other boys. Instead of being heavily involved with sports, I was passionate about the arts. I remember once at summer camp when one of my peers asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I replied back, “a model.” With a look of disapproval on his face he responded back “that’s for girls.” It’s bad enough having your dreams shot down by your parents, and adults, but having your dreams shot down by your peers feels like isolation, and that’s exactly the point that you have to come to sometimes to understand that you are made in the image of the most high. You don’t need approval, or validation from anyone to be your authentic self. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone but yourself. Because who you are, is your gift to the World.
Whenever we live our lives dependent on what pleases other people and others approval of us, we are not truly living our best life. You have your own spirit for a reason and it is up to you to use it properly to guide you to your dreams and desires. What I’ve learned on my journey, and where I am currently in my life, is that it is no ones responsibility to help me realize my own dreams. Just myself. I have a bad habit of thinking that sometimes it is other people’s responsibility to make me happy or feel fulfilled. The truth is is that you only need yourself and you don’t even need to worry about how it’s going to happen either. Just as many spiritual teachers and historical figures would fast and be alone for an extended period of time, sometimes it’s good to be alone. The more time you spend alone, the more you discover who you are and your place in the Universe.
I am currently pursuing my dreams and being my authentic self. I'm expressing my creativity through music, fashion, entertainment and art. Although I am at the beginning of my journey as a musical artist, I have accomplished getting my first single on ITunes. Releasing my debut mixtape “Days In The Midwest”, on YouTube, DatPiff.com, and Soundcloud. I’ve also been performing all over Tulsa, Oklahoma at different venues. Even still one statement rings true. You don’t have to prove anything to anybody, but yourself. I am learning on my journey that I am not in a race with anybody but myself. I don’t have to compare myself to anybody’s success, or what anybody is doing. All that matters is that I find oneness, and alignment with self.
What I would tell my younger self is, "hey you, yes you. Stop being unhappy with yourself. You are prefect. Stop wishing you looked like someone else, or wishing people liked you, as much as they like someone else. Stop trying to get attention from those that hurt you. Stop battling your body, your face, your personality, your quirks. Love them. Without these things you wouldn’t be you, and why would you want to be anyone else? Be confident with who you are. Smile. It will draw people in." My happiness will not depend on others anymore. I am happy because I love who I am. I love my flaws. I love my imperfections. They make me, and me is pretty amazing.